TRANSLATING WOMANESE INTO ENGLISH
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Hey Doc,
I am sure you get tons of questions like this but I need some good pointers.
I've known this girl for a year, ran into her every so often on campus and we would talk
casually. Then one day my buddy hands me her phone number. She gave it to him and asked
him to have me call her, so I did. It took awhile but we finally got in touch.
We talked on the phone quite a bit for a few weeks and then I ran into her at a local pub.
While there, after a few bottles of liquid courage, I asked her "So do you think we
could ever date?" She said "Yeah, I think that's possible." She also said,
"I really like you for your mind" which surprised me. I've never had a girl tell
me that before.
Since then, which was at the beginning of May, we've talked a lot more on the phone and
have been hanging out together quite a bit. We've had in depth conversations about family,
growing up, our backgrounds, our life goals and dreams. We get along fantastically and
laugh a lot whenever we're together. Anyway, to the meat of the question.
We were talking about a rather serious issue the other night and I told her that I'm there
for her and that even if it's at 4 am in the morning she can call me for support. So she
stops, turns to me and says: " I really enjoy talking to you and I am having fun
getting to know you more, and I want to continue to get to know you more, but I want to
take it slow and take my time. Do you understand what I am telling you?" I told her
that I understood and that that was cool.
So what I want to know is, is there good potential here and how do I go about keeping her
interested in me and make sure that it's going to develop into a relationship all at the
same time? I really, really think she is special and I want this to go in the right
direction. I don't what to put in a lot of time to have it only develop into another
pretty female friend relationship because I have plenty of those.
Give me what you got doc.
Donovan - who needs if he's on the right track
Hi Donovan.
Your girl friend wants to take it slow? Donovan, if you took it any slower you'd be in a
state of rigor mortis. I mean, dude, If you laid back any further you wouldn't be
breathing. But let's and start at the top.
You knew this girl for a year and you never asked for her phone number. What were you
waiting for, a sign from the heavenly hosts? Luckily for you, she had such high Interest
Level (at least initially) that she did your job for you and got the ball rolling. If she
hadn't, the two of you would still only be chit chatting during accidental encounters on
campus.
Then, once you had her number you talked with her on the phone for "a few weeks"
and never asked her out? Donovan, you've got about as much gumption as a slug. But,
unfortunately, this story gets even worse.
Even after the alcohol cut down the fear factor for you, you came up with one of the
weakest, most wimp-assed, wussified ways of asking a girl out that I've ever heard of:
"So do you think we could ever date?" No wonder she responded so half-heartedly
and then gave you that "I really like you for your mind" line. "I really
like you for your mind" is Womanese for, "Not if you were the last man on the
island."
After that, you were back to your favorite addiction, the phone. I think, Donovan, that
I'm going to have to rename you Mr. AT&T. Listen, you've got to wean yourself from
this telephonic crutch, guy. Of course, considering your state of ignorance, what I just
said may not make much sense to you. Please allow me to explain.
The telephone is a technological device that is, in the context of wooing women, only to
be used to set up your next date. You should only spend five minutes max on that sucker
and then get the hell off the line. Yes, guys, beware. Talking on the phone is dangerous.
It's like juggling with nitro. One slip and the next thing you know, things are blowing up
in your face.
Never have an extended chat-fest on the phone with a girl you are courting. Or as my
Cousin, Sal, "The Fish" love would say, "The less she knows about you, the
more she'll want you."
Donovan, I regretfully must inform you that, as far as romance goes, your relationship
with your girl-friend is DOA. If you just take your head out of you the sand and take an
objective look at the facts, you'll understand what I'm talking about.
Look, there you were, offering her unconditional love and support in her time of emotional
stress and at that very moment she drops a whammy on you! A girl with high Interest Level
would have hugged you warmly and thanked your for your commitment and support. But what
does this girl do? She tells you, in Womanese, that she wants to distance herself from
you. As Shakespeare would say, "Something's rotten in Denmark."
Donovan, you say that you don't want to put in a lot of time into this relationship, only
to have it develop into "another pretty female friend relationship" because you
have plenty of those. Well, Donovan, as far as I can see you don't seem to have any
problem putting unlimited time into it. You took a year to go out with her. You've talked
on the phone with her for weeks and weeks and have spent hours and hours with her and as
far as I can tell, you haven't even tried to kiss her. But at this point, to try would be
an exercise in futility.
And the last bit of bad news, Donovan, is that what you've got here IS "another
pretty female friend relationship." This is your life. This is your pattern with
women. You stay as passive as you can, terrified of risking any kind of rejection and you
don't let women see the real man that you are. We've got to start building your confidence
and raise your testosterone level.
Please, for the love of Pete, start studying and practicing "The "Sytem."
If you do, soon you'll no longer be playing the role of butler, therapist and "Mr.
Shoulder to CryOn" in your relationships with women. Instead you'll be getting' some
real action.
Remember, guys: don't volunteer to be the victim.
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For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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