WOMEN WHO SAY THEY'LL CALL BUT NEVER DO
Women
Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
What's up Doc?
For the last three months I've been trying what you recommend. I've been asking every
single attractive woman that I meet (that I have any interest in) for her phone number.
What's interesting is that I've run into a lot of girls who won't give me their number but
they ask me for mine.
The problem is that not one of the girls who has asked for MY number (and there's been
about fifteen since April) have ever called me, not one. I don't get it. I mean I can
understand why a girl might not want to give her number out to a guy she barely knows at
all. But if they're never going to call, then why do they even ask for my number in the
first place? I know that one of women's biggest complaints is that guys ask for their
number and then never call. Well I'm here to tell you that women do the same thing!
So what's the deal Doc? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I should be saying
when I give them my number that would make them actually follow through and dial my
digits? What do you think?
Lloyd - who just doesn't get it
Hi Lloyd,
As they say in Australia "good on ya" for having the guts to close so many
cuties for their phone number. All of you guys have to get how vitally important it is to
become totally comfortable saying the 5 magic words: "What's your home phone
number?" Why? Because it is the first time you check her Interest Level.
Now, Lloyd, allow me to clear up your confusion. Below is a breakdown of the six types of
women you will encounter when you're out in the field, closing for their home phone
numbers. You've probably run into most of them in your new adventures. But now you are
going to have a full understanding of their behavior.
1) Women who give you their number despite the fact that they have no interest in you
whatsoever and hope that you never will call. They give you the number to placate you and
to get rid of you. Why do they do this? Because they can't say the "N" word (No)
to your face. They want to look good. They still want your approval. They don't want you
to think that they are unkind.
They've been taught that the male ego is fragile and that they have to always make nice.
So they'd rather give you the number and then have you leave 27 messages and turn you down
passively, by screening their calls and never returning yours. The Reality Factor says
that the answering machine - because it screens out the flies - is their favorite weapon.
2) Women who get sadistic pleasure out of giving men false hope. They give their number
out to every guy who asks for it. Then they have wine and cheese parties for their
girlfriends where they all sit around and laugh themselves silly as they play back the
messages of the various 'chumps' of the week. These poor guys naively believed in their
heart that their potential date was sincere when she exuberantly said: "Call
me!"
3) Women who will give you their number and will go out with you but still have no
interest in you (Professional Daters). They'll run your Visa bill up sky high even though
you don't have a snowball's chance in hell of every having a relationship with them.
4) Women who won't give you their number but still like to waste your time and manipulate
you with various excuses, explanations and confusing maneuvers, i.e.: "I don't give
out my number to guys I don't know, but give me yours and I'll call you." Women in
this group are also incapable of saying no to your face.
5) Women who won't give you their number but are honest and say: "Thanks for asking
but I'm not interested, so I won't waste your time by giving you my number". A rare
breed. There are only about 6 or 7 women on the entire face of the planet who would be
this forthright.
6) Women who give you their number because they are interested in you and they want to go
out with you. For some strange reason, they give it to you along with positive body
language and without hesitation.
Lloyd, to answer your question specifically, the only thing you're doing wrong is
believing these women when they tell you that they'll call you. You want to be spending
time and energy only on women who have high interest in you, and a woman with high
interest in you will not ask you for your number without giving you hers.
So the next time a girl says, "Give me your number and I'll call you," here's
what to do. First, realize that you've already been disqualified. You're going down in
flames, even though she's trying to make it look as if you're not. But since you are,
relax and have fun with it. Look her in the eye and say: "Do guys still fall for that
line?" Or, "You know, I don't feel comfortable giving my number out to someone I
don't know either." Then give her a big smile, say "Nice talking to you,"
and walk away.
Remember, guys, always ask for the HOME phone number.
To send me your love questions or to find out more about The "System," visit me
at http://www.doclove.com or call (800)
404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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