WHY IS THAT BABE WITH SUCH A LOSER?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Hi Doc,
I'm another guy who loves beautiful women and wants to understand them. I've been with one
absolutely gorgeous woman in my life. That was three years ago and the relationship only
lasted about two months. I'm not certain why she initially chose me, but she dumped me for
this mangy criminal type guy who can barely stay out of jail. She's still with him. He
never works, she supports him, and she's madly in love with him.
Since that happened to me I've become acutely aware that so many of these gorgeous women
are with losers, or just scummy looking guys. One thing I'd like to know is: why the
losers? I'm not a guy who gives in and am by no means a wimp. I consider myself a positive
Challenge, but I have come to the conclusion that these unapproachable model type women
are only attracted to a limited group of men.
It's either guys with power, fame and barrels of cash or band members or creepy losers
with too many tattoos, but not an average guy with good looks and a lot to offer. What do
you think?
Terrence - who wants to know what's going on
Hi Terrence,
You're quite accurate in your description of the types of guys that the drop dead gorgeous
babes prefer. But you're leaving out another kind of guy they go for. If, instead of being
an average guy with good looks and a lot to offer, you were an average guy with
spectacular looks and even nothing to offer, you'd be getting some serious attention from
those "unapproachable" goddesses. Even from some of the married ones.
Now as we all know, the real beauties do go for the rich and powerful celebrities. Drop
dead gorgeous women are essentially celebrities themselves, simply by virtue of their
great beauty. They're genetic celebrities. And since women always date and marry
"up" these extreme beauties go for the 'gold.' The Reality Factor says: beauty
always finds the money and money always finds the beauty.
But besides these obvious reasons, it's difficult to know for certain why any woman really
chooses the man that she chooses. Observed from an objective viewpoint, women's mate
choices are often irrational, illogical, contradictory, and rather arbitrary. To you Psych
majors, women are inconsistent.
So, Terrence, there's more than one possible explanation for why these beauties go for the
borderline (or even full on) criminal type, the crazed musician with more piercings than a
pin cushion or the creepy loser who can't keep a job. And every stunningly gorgeous babe
will choose differently based upon her level of self-esteem, her emotional maturity and
her upbringing.
Still, there is one thing that the types of males that I've described above have in
common. They're all rebels in some way. They're not socially acceptable. If a beautiful
woman has a lot of anger toward her father, and many of them do, she can symbolically give
'the finger' to Daddy by choosing, for instance, a drug dealer with a bone through his
nose for her boyfriend.
Also, as strange as it sounds, dangerous men make many women feel safe. All women crave
safety and security and a guy who's done 'hard time' makes some women feel safe and
protected. She knows that he'll crush any other guy who hassles her, and beautiful women
do get harassed a lot.
The other thing that all these types of guys tend to have in common is a kind of detached,
don't give a crap, attitude. So these 10's perceive them as extra manly, confident and a
Challenge.
Keep in mind, Terrence, that just because she's beautiful on the outside, it doesn't mean
she's clinically sane on the inside. Just because she has a fantastic body on the outside,
it doesn't mean she has common sense on the inside. Just because she has gorgeous breasts
and long legs on the outside, it doesn't mean she's marriage material.
Remember, guys, beauty is only skin deep but character is to the bone.
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404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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