WHEN DO YOU NOT WAIT A WEEK TO CALL?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Dear Doc,
I met this cute girl, Cindy, at a party last week. We hit it off right away. She was
touching me a whole bunch and I got her home phone number.
She also asked me for my phone number so I gave it to her. I knew from reading your
articles, Doc, that it's ok to give a girl your phone number but ONLY if she's already
given you hers, and this girl actually gave me hers before I even asked for it. It was
totally obvious that she had very high Interest in me and my Interest Level in her was
real high too.
So even though I was dying to call her the next day, I didn't. I was all set to wait a
week to contact her, according to your "System", but when I came home the night
after I met her, there was a message on my service from her, asking me if I'd like to go
out "for lunch or dinner or something." Yes, that's right. She called me the
next day and asked me out! I've never had that happen before.
So now I'm not sure what to do. Should I stick to the plan and wait till a week has gone
by to call her, or should I return her call right away? I feel like calling her right back
but I'm committed to doing the right thing according to your principles, Doc. Since I've
been studying your materials I've realized how many chances I've blown with women by being
too eager and I don't want to blow it any more.
So, Doc, what should I do?
Dale - who needs an answer right away
Dear Dale,
Congratulations. You've got a live one there! This girl's giving you more buying signals
than a shop-aholic with a new gold card. As my cousin Sal "The Fish" Love would
say, "When they dig you, they let you know it."
Yes, you my brother, Dale, have experienced those rare phenomena that only takes place
when the Moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter aligns with Mars. That quite uncommon
occurrence -- a woman calling a guy and asking him out. Isn't it a trip? Isn't it
refreshing? Yep, you gotta love it.
And I commend you, Dale, on you dedication to doing whatever it takes to change your love
life for the better. You're a great role model for all students of "The System".
So let's get you straightened out here. Yes, in almost all circumstances, when we first
get a girl's phone number, we do wait a week before we call her. But this situation you
find yourself in, Dale, is unusual, and you can't just be a robot who follows only one
programming command. Part of becoming a "Three Percenter" (one of the three
percent of men who have true mastery with women) involves learning when and when not to
improvise and bend the rules. In this case we're going to take a left turn.
What you should do is wait only one more day and then call Cindy back and make a date with
her. Why am I saying that it's OK to do that? The big thing here is that she's coming at
you. As they say in the trenches, it's "Incoming". She's taken a risk and
allowed herself to be vulnerable so it's appropriate to meet her halfway.
We don't want you to be like one of those "Rules Girls" who refuse to return a
man's call because they want him to grovel before they'll go out with him. It' good policy
to always be courteous. But don't worry. You're still going to be a Challenge, Dale,
because when you call Cindy, you're not going to spend a half hour chatting with her,
diminishing your mystery quotient. Most guys would do that, but you're going to be
different.
Instead, you'll say "Hi, hello, how ya doin?" and then go for the jugular and
make a date with her, badda bing badda boom. When you do that, you're being direct and
decisive, and women love that. So go ahead, Dale, and dial those digits.
Remember, guys: you gotta know when to follow the rules, and when to bend them.
To send me your love questions or to find out more about The "System," visit me
at http://www.doclove.com or call (800)
404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars.
For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
one man versus another?"
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