BROKEN DATE EXCUSES:
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF SHE'S BEING HONEST
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
Hi Doc,
I need your advice. Two weeks ago I met this girl "Dusty" while we were both
waiting in a long line at the bank. She was chewing gum so I said to her, "You chew
gum really well!" She cracked up at that. The conversation flowed easily from that
point. I kept it light and positive as you suggest and got her phone number just before
the teller looked at me and said. "Next in line."
This all happened in less than ten minutes. Pretty good, huh? Since I've been seriously
studying and practicing "The System" over the last three months, I've gotten
really comfortable and confident with your 'closing' process.
When I asked Dusty for her phone number, she eagerly wrote it down for me before I could
even get my pen out of my pocket; and she also said, "I'll be out of town for a few
days, but I'll be back home on Sunday by 7:00 or so." (Sounds like really high
Interest Level so far, wouldn't you say, Doc?)
I called her on Monday. (I figured I'd be more of a Challenge if I waited an extra day).
She seemed excited to hear from me, and I made a date to pick her up on Thursday night for
dinner and dancing at this new club downtown.
Then, on Wednesday night, the night before our date, just as I was about to hit the sack
right around 10:30, she calls. She said that had gone jogging in the park the night before
and had gotten caught in the rain and got chilled and was now is starting to feel like she
was getting a bad cold.
She said that she waited until the "last minute" to call me to see if taking
lots of vitamin C and herbs would nip it in the bud but that she was now actually feeling
worse. She said she knew that she just wouldn't be in any condition to go out let alone go
dancing and that she was also afraid that I might catch something from her and that she
didn't want to make me sick.
She sounded really sorry and disappointed and said that she "definitely" wanted
to "reschedule" as soon as she's out of the woods so to speak. I said that I was
sorry that she wasn't feeling well and that we should talk when she's feeling better.
So what do you think, Doc? Is she on the up and up, and how do you think I should handle
this?
Reed - who wants to know what you think
Hi Reed,
First, let me compliment you for being so bold and resourceful. That 'gum chewing' line
was great. Very creative. You took something that was going on in the immediate
environment and parlayed it into a 'funny.' Learning to think on your feet like that is
part of what it takes to become what I call a Three-Percenter. (One of the 3% of guys who
have true mastery with women.)
You could have said the same thing to a different woman, and she would have given you the
cold shoulder; but your miss "Dusty" liked your wit and that's all that counts.
You took the shot, and you hit the bullseye. You made a connection with and got a viable
home phone number from a woman who was a complete stranger. Not an easy thing to do. Great
work.
And, yes, I do concur with your initial analysis that this gal was demonstrating a high
level of interest in you. Why do I say that? When she reached for a pen before you could
even locate yours, that was significant. But the strongest positve flag she revealed was
that she gave you a very specific time to call her so that you would be able to reach her
easily. To you psych majors, women help you when they like you.
In spite of all that, it was still a smart move on your part to not call her on the exact
day and time that she suggested. If you call precisely when a woman suggests after you
first meet her, it's to easy to come off as obedient and boring. While you waited that
extra day to call, Reed, Dusty's Interest Level in you was rising because you added in an
extra sprinkle of that magical mystery dust: Challenge.
Now lets get to the meat of the matter. Is she really sick OR as they do at Burger King,
is she trying to sell you a whopper? Short of stalking her or sending a medical team over
to examine her, we can't know for certain one way or another. But due to the strength of
her initial buying signals, we're going to give her two things: the benefit of the doubt
and another chance.
At the same time, just to let her know that you didn't buy her excuse 100% and that you
know that she might have made the whole thing up, we're going to add extra time before we
call her and make another date. The idea is to wait beyond the time that she would
realistically be over her cold, at least two weeks. (If she gets better quickly and is
chompin' at the bit to go out with you, she can always pick up the phone.)
If you call her too soon, Reed, you'll be indirectly telling her that it's all right to
jerk you around. So for now, put her on the back burner and keep getting more phone
numbers. You've obviously got the level of confidence required. Go get em' Tiger!
Remember, guys: you don't know what's what until you get past 60 days with her.
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For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, "Why do you stay with
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